Psychotherapy can help us understand what is really important to us. We can adjust our work, personal and family workloads accordingly to achieve an acceptable balance.
Simply put – it is a balance between work and personal life. This cannot be separated, work or study is part of life and their importance changes at different stages of life. It is better to think about harmony, which contributes to overall life satisfaction. Many people have long preferred work to personal life and rest, which can lead to a number of personal problems and even occupational burnout.
The basis is to answer honestly the question of what our current life priorities are. To pay attention to them, and not to try to do everything and be perfect in everything. It can be difficult to be both an executive manager and a full-time mother at the same time. It is important to find some time to rest, sleep and take care of yourself, not just of others. And if you feel that you “have to” work hard, look for where that feeling is coming from. Psychotherapy can be useful, by introducing time management techniques that can help to organize work and family life.
Motivation is essential, without it changes in time management are difficult. In the beginning, it is necessary to realize what we are doing, why and how much time it will take. Then think about what can be limited or delegated. Map what our time-eaters are and how we can eliminate them. Next, we need to plan when and what we will do. What we have planned must be adhered to if possible. Concentration-oriented techniques help to do this. It is also necessary to set aside time to rest and stop. No time management technique is self-saving, we need to find what suits us best.
A workaholic prefers work to everything else, only work gives him or her a sense of meaningfulness and usefulness. The individual delivers high performance and often requires it from others. A workaholic has no hobbies, he or she limits the time spent with family or friends. When he or she is not working, he or she may feel guilty. A workaholic usually works to compensate for an internal problem, absence of relationships, lack of self-confidence, etc. Workaholism often leads to occupational burnout syndrome.
Motivation is key, a workaholic must be aware of his addiction and want to do something about it. Psychotherapy is an important part of treatment, helping to understand the reasons for addiction, re-evaluate priorities and look for other sources of inner satisfaction. It is necessary to reduce work activities, strengthen social relations, find new or renew previous hobbies. Relaxation techniques and an overall healthy lifestyle will also help to improve. It is a long-term process and it is okay not to be alone.
“Burnout caught up with me in therapy. After seven years in a top management position, working twelve hours a day, experiencing a lot of stress and not having time for family, Ihad a nervous breakdown. My wife gave me an ultimatum, either therapy or divorce. In therapy, I found I was ovestraining myself due to my extreme perfectionism. I couldn’t delegate tasks, I wanted to do everything myself to make the best of it. I am still learning not to have such high demands and especially to find some time to rest. I have reevaluated my priorities and now I put my family first.”