What comes first to your mind when you hear “covid-19”? To us it is “fear”. Whenever we turn on the TV or open a web browser, we are made to feel that if we are not afraid of coronavirus we do not respect human life.
Some of us realised that in addition to emotions, we should also engage critical thinking. However the hard data on which our society has built the truth over the last decade are being interpreted differently by everyone.
And so we were left with just opinions. We can think something, think of something, be convinced of something, and yet everything can be completely different.
So how do you find your bearings in a world where the rules that gave us a sense of security, the ability to anticipate and, most importantly, the ability to influence our world, have practically ceased to work overnight?
We would like to share with you what each of us can do for ourselves in this time of uncertainty. This advice comes from professional psychotherapists.
We have been hit hard by published statistics which report a rapid deterioration in the mental health of our population. For example, according to a study by the National Institute of Mental Health, the number of people experiencing depression has tripled since 2017. We sympathize with every single person who is part of this statistic, and with all those who are experiencing any suffering at this time, whether it is the loss of a loved one, the loss of security or the loss of joy in life. That’s why we also started Hedepy, which aims to simplify the way to get therapeutic support and help people feel better mentally better.
If we were to name a single recommendation that has the potential to help anyone who feels overwhelmed by all the information being broadcast – or by their own thoughts – it would be just that. Become an observer – imagine watching a drama that draws you into the story. You feel tension, you are holding your breath, and at the best moment a simple melody is heard – the advertising is on. And you realize that you are sitting at home and none of this applies to you, the emotions fade and you are able to breathe again.
In this example, we’re showing you three things:
An individual cannot save the world. One can only help by saving himself. So let’s move on – to our inner worlds.
No thought, not even any emotion, is in a true sense “Us” – we are so much more. We can use the term consciousness, for example. Consciousness is a state into which various thoughts often inadvertently flow – sometimes interesting, sometimes bizarre, some posing as a warning of a real threat. Do you know those compulsive and fierce thoughts that creep into your mind again and again? They are usually the ones that are linked to an emotion – and the emotion that has the most power over us is fear. It’s all the scenarios that start – what if…, What if I get sick? What if I lose my job? What if I’m left alone?
If you find that these thoughts don’t do you any good, you can work on letting them go. One option is to become an observer again; this time an observer of your own mind and your own thoughts. At the moment, no matter why and where they come from, you don’t have to evaluate them in any way, they won’t endanger you. It takes practice because thoughts like to come back, but the good news is that usually their urgency weakens over time.
We mean at this very moment. Attention is like a window – its view determines the atmosphere of the whole room. What we focus our attention on affects how we perceive the world around us and how we then feel about ourselves. And best of all, if we are aware of this ability, we can start playing with it.
Do you remember last spring? When medical supplies were desperately lacking in the whole country? A huge number of people began selflessly sewing masks, some sold them, others donated – people made disinfectants, universities contributed innovations, and others devoted themselves to home teaching and baking bread. Some people criticized the government or boycotted the measures. Each of us automatically turned our attention to the direction closest to us.
Our heart’s desire is for everyone to be able to consciously turn their attention in another direction whenever they are not feeling well in the original one. We desire that those who fearlessly help in the crisis find time for themselves. Those who are angry at the limitations, see not only what has failed, but also what we as humans are capable of.
It is important to mention one more thing. Consciously working with attention does not mean avoiding bad thoughts or demanding emotions. On the contrary, they are meant to be understood and experienced. Maybe you can’t handle them right now or you feel like you’re spinning in a circle. Then it’s vital not to face them alone, a psychotherapist can help you. Psychotherapy is now available for everyone, even during time of emergency measures – whether it’s support for free services in cases of acute crisis or online platforms such as Hedepy.