It is common in a relationship for the initial feeling of infatuation to eventually be replaced by a more sober, but perhaps deeper, sense of love for the other person. In the course of living together, worries, disagreements, mundanity start to come… Sometimes we may struggle to communicate with each other or feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Conflicts can cause disagreements about child rearing, cohabitation with extended family and, importantly, satisfaction with sex life. Couples therapy can help, the only condition is that both partners are willing to work on their relationship and share their feelings.
It is true that a problem between two people should be solved by two people. But sometimes the other person may feel that couples therapy is not the right solution, or maybe they don’t even feel the problems you have that much. There is no simple advice on how to get the other person to come to therapy, and any pressure can also easily trigger further conflict.
However, if one partner has the will to overcome the problems and save the relationship, nothing is lost. It can be helpful to start with individual therapy and arrange a session with a professional who also does couples therapy. After all, as they say, it’s always good to start with yourself. Perhaps then it will be your feelings and your experiences with therapy that will help convince your partner that couple therapy makes sense for your relationship.