One can be alone and not feel lonely and the other way around, keeping in touch with our loved ones has never been easier. Technological progress, accessibility of travel and improved living conditions have increased our flexibility and mobility. And yet people are more than ever single, living alone or (although surrounded by people) experiencing loneliness. Psychotherapy can be a way out of this.
Although being alone and experiencing loneliness sounds similar, we perceive them completely differently. While being alone is a voluntary condition that can often be useful and relieving, loneliness is harmful and can result in mental and physical problems in the long run.
If we get anxious because we feel lonely, it’s a good idea to have a few tips on hand to help us feel better. You can make a list of things, contacts and activities that bring you overall joy, and have it with you in case of emergency. Beware of social networks, which give the illusion that we are not alone, and make our condition worse overall. On the contrary, a walk in the fresh air, a phone call with a friend or pleasant music can help us. However, if you feel lonely for a long time, the cause may be more ingrained, and it may be helpful to seek professional help.
There are days when we are not in the mood to meet anyone and we need to be alone. If you find yourself not talking to others for a few days to weeks, if you don’t even have the strength to pick up the phone and call someone, it’s time to admit that something might be wrong. Online psychotherapy can be a non-threatening step to improve your condition.
At first glance, everything may seem fine. You have a relationship, you understand your partner. Nevertheless, sometimes we may find ourselves in a state where, despite our happy lives, we feel sad and alone. We isolate ourselves from others and close ourselves in. If we feel that our partner does not understand us and does not know what is happening to us, it is good to start talking to your partner about it. Psychotherapy can be a safe place for a conversation with our partner, especially when previous attempts ended in unnecessary conflict.
Divorce is a very stressful life event which brings various problems, including a feeling of loneliness. It’s not surprising, you and your partner have lived together through a part of your life, you used to do a lot of things together and suddenly you are left to do everything alone. Reassurance brings the realization that this is only a temporary state. In order to minimize possible situations where you fall into despair, it is important to plan your day, include your hobbies in it and meet other people. This can help you get over the initial weeks and restart your happy life.
Psychotherapy creates a safe space in which we can find understanding and support to cope with the situation or state in which we find ourselves. Not only can contact with an expert alone bring immediate relief, but long-term cooperation can help a person develop strategies and habits that can prevent similar situations in the future.
“I always enjoyed having fun. My friends and I regularly went to play volleyball and I used to attend Friday concerts with my colleagues from work. I adored my small apartment, until it became my office and my place for everything. Thanks to the ordered home office and other measures, in addition to work ethic, I lost my entire routine, which I was used to. It was the first time I realized I was alone. The others went to their families, had children or at least watched movies with a partner. I didn’t even have a dog. Since my first online therapy, I mainly expected advice on how to handle it all. Eventually, I found that even though I lived alone, I never really spent any time with myself. Everything I had done until then was outside, with someone. The biggest paradox is that ceasing to be afraid of loneliness and learning to be with myself in the end enriched my relationships with others the most.”